The key AG is finding the balance in those two things. Life is not black and white. There are no absolute answers. Life is the process of self-discovery, self-improvement and inner reflection. During those times you're being self-sufficient and working to lift yourself up, issues may arise that are difficult to reconcile, so you get feedback here about that specific issue. You can then rely on the experience of others. Yes, it's a juggling act, but it's one we all must face. When we put our head down on the pillow at the end of the day we need to feel we've progressed in some way. Sometimes progression is figuring things out on our own and sometimes progression is asking for help.
Hope this clarifies what I was trying to say.
Your Friend, TgrsPurr. xoxo