because sometimes... the thing is... ya just gotta meet someone half way.

yes... crap has happened to you in your life. crappy crap crap that make it really hard for you to trust people . sure. that is part of the plight of many people who suffer.

but then... you reach out to others for help.

and they aren't your abusers. they aren't. much as it is tempting to cast them in that role when they don't intuitively respond to your every need and desire.... that doesn't mean they are out to harm you.

most therapists try... and try... and try... they realize that trust doesn't come cheap... there are often a number of things that they do that are supposed to convey that they are going OUT OF THEIR WAY to help you. such things as seeing you on a cheaper scale than all of their other patients or having email contact with you more than their other patients or what the **** ever... these are the things that start to stack up in their mind. objective things of how they have gone out of their way in their attempt to help you.

if you can't see that as an attempt to help you then... it is time for you to move on. otherwise... they will simply burn out in working with you. if you can't validate that then... well... your therapist is basically telling you 'don't you see what i do for you? if you do not then... i can't do this anymore'. there is no love in the world that is unconditonal (unless you believe in some weirdass god). basically... validate her efforts or end her misery now. don't you see????????????