It is very very hurtful and frustrating to be pushed away without explanation or the opportunity for closure. I have experienced this too. I still will sometimes become very distraught and start going over things I said because I think I did something to cause this so I go looking for that 'something' because it seems like if I can find that 'something', then I can understand what happened better and I can get past it once and for all.

Sometimes a person does just have to end a relationship abruptly because it is in their best interest, or because that is just the only way they know how. It is about them and how they are dealing with whatever is going on with them.

That said, it is like many things: very hard to process when there is no access to the person involved... and that includes the other and myself, because I didn't always want to honestly look at my role in the situation.

I hope you and current T keep working on this so you can find some peace of mind and distance from the hurt