Basically, he does not respect you. He doesn't respect you enough to commit to you, he won't even 'give' to you in any way, does not respect your right to having your own belongings, your own space and time apart from you, he even came right out and told you he will not have a mutual, healthy relationship with you. This guys sounds like a piece of work. You really should kick him out of your life in every way that you can. Do not allow him access to your cell and your computer if you can cut those off, do not ever "explain" things to him anymore, let him know he has no right to demand things from you or treat you with disrespect. At least, try these things if you live with him unless he's actually physically dangerous. But you do not deserve that treatment and I think you should disconnect from him totally, and if you're not living with him that will be easier to make a clean break.

You said you don't want to spend the rest of your life with someone so mean - prepare to get the parasite out! Push him away. He might not threaten you, but he definitely puts his hatred onto you and does not respect you. That's just as bad as threatening and hitting, and it can leave longer lasting scars and pain. It sounds like he is probably sometimes nice to you and that can be addictive when it's gone. It might help to make a list of all the mean things he does to you and look it over when you feel attached to him and think you need him emotionally. Think about if all the bad things are even worth the pain. Heck, even think about your loss of friends and opportunities due to him. I bet if you do this, over time he will become more and more distasteful to you, I became disgusted with the man who did these things to me even though I missed him at first.

Demand no contact if you can. Just keep demanding no contact, without explaining since it'll feed into his crap. Just tell him it's over and you no longer want to talk in any form. If you have to, get a restraining order. The pull to go back to him will be strong at first, it might help to read about emotional and verbal abuse and control, find some books and websites about it, and if you can find some sort of outside support, that would be great too.