Thread: tired of it all
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Old Jan 01, 2009, 07:40 PM
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Originally Posted by Peppermint_Patty View Post
4ever,

Yes... it is important to feel that people love us, but the most important thing is... do you love yourself???

If you don't love yourself... the love of another will not be enough. Also if you come across as emotionally needy, it will scare others off. People will run away if they feel smothered.

Anywho... you mentioned that you do not have any friends or family nearby... have you tried making friends in your area-- such joining a club or volunteer organization?

Close friendships can be hard to find and develop at any age, but even a few casual friendships, where you get together and do some fun activity, can be a real help in breaking the loneliness.

BTW... Meetup.com can be a good place to find fun activity groups in your area. Why not give them a try.

All the best,

Peppermint Patty
acually i was just the opposite of emotionally needy, maybe that has been my problem-too strong,not needy enough.everyone i know have recently been shocked to here that i do feel lonely and depressed as i have hid it so well. its just recent that i feel such a need for someone special in my life. this is the only place i have been able to express myself freely without feeling like im just whining. I have done very well with my life considering my upbringing. I have always had confidence in myself and
always have done the right thing. now i just cry myself to sleep every night. i have looked into activity groups in my area, unforunatly it mostly consist of people 60 and older.which i do enjoy being around that age crowd, it is not a place for meeting people my age to go do things with. i also live in a dry county so there is no night life here not that i would be a bar fly but it would be easier to meet people. The people i do know such as co-workers are all married and have families so they are unavailable most of the time and i feel like a 3rd wheel.