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Jan 01, 2009, 08:45 PM
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Originally Posted by Sannah
This seems more than grief and I think that this is what Mouse was referring too. Pink, it seems that your dad was the only person that you were connected to until you started with your T. Your dad does sound wonderful and the relationship that you had with him probably saved your *** (besides being very fulfilling and wonderful in its own right). IMO your grieving is normal but what makes it so unbalancing is that you don't have a connection with anyone else in your life except T. I would suggest working on this area of your life so that you can gain some balance. In another thread I asked you a question about this (your feelings with other people).
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It is true that my father was the person that I was most connected with. To say I don't have a connection with anyone else in my life except T seems like a pretty off base considering you wouldn't know that I have a husband and quite a few friends. I don't know why people think that my feelings are so beyond grief-- I lost the person in my life whom I was the closest to. I did not have a mother/daughter bond. My mother has been mentally ill my entire life. There is no way to balance grief when you lose the person you were closest to; the person you knew longer than anyone in your whole life-- it doesn't matter if you have 2304832 other connections-- nothing fills that hole.
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The person that I am closest to in this world is my husband. If anything ever happened to him it would throw my world into a tailspin but I would realize that I would have to make a life from what I have left.....
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Which I have done. I also have a very strong connection with my work and my schooling. I continue to work on my degree, form new relationships people from my doctoral cohort, be with my husband, etc. I didn't stop my life, I didn't withdraw-- but, like I said, nothing is going to fill that emptiness.
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