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Oi! I'm gonna go out on a limb here AG, I hope I don't offend...that's certainly not my intent. Only to help.

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I know your intent is to not offend me but to help me. I would not think otherwise, you don't have that within yourself.

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I couldn't agree with you more...you are not an angry, bitter, hateful, vengeful person. Your disposition is more passive than that. You turn your anger inward toward yourself and that is the very reason for the depths of your depression into the deep dark abyss. You DO have anger, it's just misdirected and you use it to punish yourself instead of others. Why? you ask. Because you are too much of a ppl pleaser. You need human attention too badly to risk it on something like rage. That's not to say you never get mad. I've SEEN you get mad and lash out. And then you have more reason to jpunish yourself in your depression. There is nothing abstract about your depression AG, it is very specific and very focused and full of intent.

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I have never thought of having anger directed within. I've thought of it as self-hatred. Why would I be angry with myself? For not being perfect? Nobody is perfect. I don't get this at all. I agree that to some point, I'm a people pleaser and yes there are times that I've gotten angry and lashed out but again, I don't see myself then punishing myself with that anger. I've already released it at whoever, whatever I've lashed out at. I think my depression is from my traumas and the lack of love shown to me as a child. I want to feel loved. I can't seem to feel it, even when extended to me. I don't recognize it because I was never told by my parent even once that they loved me, never got a hug, never given a goodnight kiss. I'm sure they must've loved me but I never felt it. I still don't know how to feel it given to me.

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Where I think you make yourself "unsafe" to be approached by someone you've had differences with is your self deprication. Your self-loathing, the way you'll take EVERYTHING so personally and feel overly hurt by the reconciliation. Even here in this post...you took it personally that ppl weren't responding. This makes you unapproachable.

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I'm a highly-sensitive person. That's not new to anybody here. I thought that others would've had failed relationships in their lives and might've offered ideas to me on how they were able to find closure to failed relationships. Nobody did, other than you directing me to look at where the other person is coming from, to which I replied.

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Yes, when someone does respond your grateful, appreciative, responsive and sweet. But overly so. You crave the attention so bad it's a little overwhelming.

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That sure shocked and hurt me. My positive responses are overwhelming. I've never been told I'm too sweet before. This just leaves me speechless and crying. I guess I don't know how to talk with people at all. My communication skills, even when positive suck. Now I'm scared to even post at all. I don't consider myself to be an attention-seeker at all. Looks like I don't even know who I am.

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Not everyone will know what to say in a particular post or thread. I've been there.

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I didn't expect 'everyone' to reply. That would be expecting way too much but yes, I did at least hope for some amount of replies to which I could respond when I came back here. Don't we all?

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I've also made posts I desperately wanted ppl to respond to and when it didn't happen fast enough I began to question myself. You are FULL of self-doubt.

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If you questioned yourself then you too had self-doubt. I'm not sure what self-doubt has in relation to not getting replies though.

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You have a very difficult time holding *yourself* up, your too dependent on others to do that for you. This is a mistake

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How does this thread have any relationship to how dependent I am on others? Am I the only one on this site that asks opinions from others? Why is my asking any different than theirs? I know I have had relationships where I leaned far too heavily on the other person for emotional support but as far as this site is concerned, is this not a support site? Why is everybody here?

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Another point AG is that ppl know exactly what you're referring to here, it's kinda hard not to. This makes ppl uncomfortable because everything is being said by nothing being said.

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What EXACTLY am I referring to here that is so obvious that makes people uncomfortable? ASSUMPTIONS!!!

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Ppl like specifics to a problem or issue, not generalizations. Ppl want the story...not the gory details, but the facts of the situation.

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I gave specifics. I said I had formed a pattern in my life where all relationships ended because of me being too needy. I mentioned losing my best friend last year because of it. How much more specific to I need to get?

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Try not to take everything and anything so personally. Ppl's responses or lack thereof are not necessarily about you.
I responded, why can't that be enough?
Thinking of you AG. I'm your friend.
TgrsPurr. xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoooooooooooo

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Again, I'm highly sensitive but more so was disappointed because I thought failed relationships would be something that we ALL would have in common. I couldn't imagine not getting replies, other than yours when I came back several hours later. I was surprised. I guess I need to learn that either no responses or one response is enough and not be disappointed. My bad. I'll try to do better. Yes, you are my friend and I hope me, yours. Thanks for thinking of me. I guess the way in which you think of me hurts though and it seems you're not alone in you're way of thinking either by the looks of it.