from what ive read on other posts and this one (and forgive me if i stuff up monumentally please - as my mind is only half on line at the moment) I would think it was because of the allegations your GF made - this would be seen as dangerous by a lawyer and they would tell her JMO to break off all contact ot avoid further problems

very hard on you - no closure - yes there would be grieving - very hard on her too -

I hope things get better for you I truly do