I have the same issues, as I'm sure a lot of others with bi-polar have. My sister hates my guts and tells people I'm a drug addict, which in turn makes me resent her (naturally). We have a strained relationship to say the least. I am totally passive with her when I should be more assertive. She means a lot to me, so I'm reluctant to confront her. She gossips with all her friends about me and then wonders why I avoid her. If I complain she tells me or my parents that I'm paranoid, which I am, but I'm not stupid- and some of the things she's done are stupid and transparent.

I'm sorry you are having problems. Hopefully time will heal them. I wish I could be of more use to you, but I'm in a pretty deep hole myself. I wish you well- S