Thanks, everyone. deliquesce, to answer your question...how do I feel after telling him? At the moment I'm not all that comfortable with having told him but my degree of comfort with it seems to change by the day, so hopefully it will improve? The other thing is the flashback itself and my thinking around it feels like it has burst out in ways I hadn't expected. I don't know how to describe it. Maybe this is what he meant when he said to be aware it would be sitting in a different place in my brain now that we had talked about it.