i've found speaking to a stranger is the absolute best solution. a stranger doesn't have any vested interest in having sex with you - so there is no pressure to get better immediately. the 'stranger' i speak to is my pdoc, and i have been seeing him for a while now, so he is hardly a stranger anymore - just someone who cares about me a lot.

does your fiance know about what happened? if you tell him, it might help him understand and be more patient with you.