In my opinion, I think support isn't just about saying what the person wants to hear. I know i'm going to get attacked for this, but i don't think what 02221983 first said was unsupportive. I think he was just sending suggestions about how to deal, and a good one at that. When your T can't be there, go to the people closest to you in your life. I can see getting a little defensive when he said you spend a lot of time thinking about your T (cause i would too, because it's true), but i actually think redirecting your focus is a healthy thing to do. He was even supportive at the end suggesting to take care of yourself. I'm not sure why everyone jumped on that. Thats just my opinion, and i'm sure since it doesn't agree with most of yours i will get bashed