A lot of children who grow up in homes where the parent(s) use drugs and/or drink alcohol become a certain type of child and grow up to still have some of those, if not all, charactistics. This is a chart, and I'd like feedback on it. I received it from my sponser, and I am now sharing with you all. Let me know what you think...

The "Scapegoat" Child:
Description:
Angry, Irresponsible, Relies on Peers, Uses Substances, Low Achiever, Seeks attention (usually in a negative manner).

What a "scapegoat" might say:
I don't need anyne.
I won't feel anything.
You can't hurt me.
I don't care.
I rebel against authority.
Maybe if I get into enough trouble, I can gain some control.
I will never belong.
I only trust my friends.
I feel comfortable around people who use drugs/alcohol.

Visible Qualities: Hostility, Defiance, Anger
Inner Feelings: Hurt, Guilt, Inferior
Focus: Remove blame from alcohol/drugs, put it on others.
Characteristics: Negative attention, Trouble Maker.

Without Help, unplanned pregnacy is more likely, will cause more trouble in school or work area, and more likely to end up in prison. WITH help, they are able to accept responsibility, could become a good councelor, and have ability to accept reality.

The "Mascot" Child
Description:
Cute, funny, does anything for attention, poor concentration, hyperactive, charming, manipulative, dishonest, uses anger inappropriately.

What a "Mascot" might say:
When people laugh, I feel liked.
I will be as charming as I can.
If I laugh, I won't feel the pain.
Don't be angry at me.
I can gain control by being funny.
I can't stop moving, it hurts too much.

Visible Quaities: Fragile, Immature, Needs protection
Inner Feelings: Fear, Depressed, Alone
Represents to Family: Fun and Humor.
Characteristics: Hyperactive, learing disabilities, short attention span

Without help, this person can get ulsers easier and can't handle stress. They are compulsive and described as the class clown. They usually marry a "Hero" child for care. WITH help, they can take care of themself. No longer are they the class clown but are fun to be with and has a good sense of humor.

The "Lost Child":
Description:
Shy, Lost, Loner, Often under/overweight, Aloof, Finds comfort in fantasy and privacy, treasures things and pets, Secretive, doesn't get close to others easily, Often ill and misses school and/or work.

What a "lost child" might say:
I am unseen.
I don't count.
I can only depend on me.
I feel I don't exist.
I won't be involved with others.
I dislike being seen or heard.
I get sick to gain attention and comfort.
When I make a pretend world, I feel safe.
All I can control is me.
I feel less than anybody.

Visible Qualities: Withdrawn, Loner
Inner Feelings: Lonlieness, unimportant, worthless
Represents to Family: One child less to worry about.
Characteristics: Invisible, Follower, Indecisive

Without help, the lost child can end up with little zest for life and have sexual identity problems. They can become promiscuous or stay alone. Often times lost children die early from suicide or drug overdose. WITH help, they can become independant, are talented, creative, and imaginative.

The "Hero" Child
Description:
Capable, Good natured, Successful, Considerate, High Achiever, Adultified, Secretive, caretaker, Intellectul.

What a "Hero" might say:
I will not feel.
I will watch others feelings.
I will not upset anyone.
I can't make mistakes.
I'm responsible for everything.
It's my fault.
I have no needs.
I won't ask for help.
I must be the best at everything.
I want to please others.
I want approval.
I FEEL LIKE A FAKE!

Visible Qualities: Visible Success, Looks good, does what's right all the time.
Inner feelings: Inadequate, vulnerable, insecure.
Represents to Family: self-worth, family can be proud.
Characteristics: High Achiever, Grades, Sports, Friends, Popularity

Without help, Heros can become workaholics who feel they are never wrong. They feel they are responsible for everything and is dependant on self only. WITH help, heros can accept failure, realize they are not responsible for everyone else, and are often good executors.