I am lucky that my T's and I have talked about phone calls. My reg T says its best to call her before her lunch as she can call back, and she will call me and tell me if sh cant talk to me that day and will call the next. She never makes me feel hurried if she is in a hurry she tells me she has a couple of miniuts because I dont like feeling rushed. She tells me when she is going to be gone and what time of day she usually leaves on each weekday. Because I told her that when I call and she doenst call back it feels like a rejection and even though I know its not my brain will glue on to that. So she tries hard. I tell her if i need her to call back and if I dont. She is good about that except once I had a promise of safety and I made sure not to call her because I figured the contract was over and if i called her she would make me promise her again and I was having a hard time having flashbacks and I need to do certain things to keep myself grounded and she doesnt want me to. So i didnt call her and she called me to extend the promise. UGG.
My emdr t and I have a system and she gets back to me usually every single tim even if its late. I have ways of getting her to call me sooner if needed. She is the intake coordinator who is a therapist but does intakes all day and has a few clients she picks and has more flexiability.
The reason I am saying this is to say that maybe talking to your T's would be a great help. I know I am lucky with my T's expecially for public mental health (community mental health).
i hated the waiting and wondering because by the time I talked to them about what I called about I was so triggered from the waiting. I need to be able to talk to them when things get yucky...I have three kids and I am a single mom and I have to be able to focus and be safe and when I get triggered or have severe flashbacks I cant afford to fall back into old patterns.
Any way pink sorry to talk so much im just trying to help. ((HUG))