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Old Jan 03, 2009, 12:30 AM
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I had a dream about a year ago that I was in my T's office with 2 other guys and we were all supposed to do therapy at one time. I didn't like it at all. It was not therapeutic for me. I didn't know if I should pretend not to listen when the other guys talked so as to preserve their privacy, or if I was expected to chime in and offer my own insights into their problems, or what. Basically, I was not interested in their problems and felt constrained to open up with T in front of them. Looking back, that does seem kind of nightmarish.... I thought and thought who these guys in my dream might be and it was a couple of months later I finally figured it out. Those two guys were my divorce! This dream had come at a time when I was getting really tired of talking about my divorce in therapy, and it seemed like this was all T wanted to talk about. And he seemed to brush over other topics I would raise and instead talk about the divorce. It was very frustrating. I love how in my dream the divorce was personified as these two guys. Very clever. In the dream I tried to tell T that I would like to go back to having separate sessions with him without those 2 guys and he refused to do that. I was so mad at him. I thought maybe he was doubling up with clients in therapy because he had too many clients and I suggested that to him, and he got really pissed off. He showed me his appointment calendar, which was completely empty, and said he had plenty of slots open to see clients, but I would still have to see him with those two guys. GRRRRRRRRRRRRR. In retrospect, the dream seems funny to me, but it was not at the time.

I also dreamt that T was handicapped and used a wheelchair. He asked me to help him once get out of his wheelchair and he leaned on me to go down a few steps to his office. And I carried the wheelchair down the steps and helped him get back into it. I hated, hated, hated that. I wanted to look away and not watch him trying to get down the steps. I hated seeing him like that. That was not a good moment. So again, kind of nightmarish...
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