for me... i think i find it like remembering traumatic stuff. that is to say... that i have to go really slowly and test the waters. not so much with respect to my therapists response (any more) but more with respect to how i'm going to hold up until i see t again.

so... just mention just a little bit... then usually you get some kind of empathetic response. then ease off / talk about something else. and then... see how i go through the week... it does tend to stir things up a little, yes. hard to know... i think the week goes a little worse for it. but then my weeks are usually pretty hard anyway so hard to know. maybe it isn't exactly worse but rather it is different. yeah i think about it during the week after i've talked about it. but know what? i'd think about it during the week after even if i didn't talk about it. but mentioning it a little. have the memory of t being there with me through it. can call that to mind during the week and it helps me some. others experience might be different, though. i don't know.