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Your T squints at you? Does he need glasses or something? As long as he isn't winking at you... I'm direct with my T. I don't stuff things down when I have a feeling or a thought that is important to express. If I think my T is wrong or his answers are otherwise simplistic and unrealistic, I tell him. It's important to TELL your T these things you post here.

You don't really hate your T Miss C~ He is probably confronting the things that are unpleasant to talk about which are holding you back from functioning better. That can piss people off when their dysfunctional patterns are pointed out to them. A lot of the reason that people have so many problems is because they stuff emotions down and also don't confront irrational thoughts/actions. It's easy to forget here that most people do not see a therapist because they are afraid of them.

If I thought my T truly didn't have empathy anymore, I'd leave him lickity split, with no hesitation. Without empathy, what good are they? In your case though MissCharlotte, it more than likely isn't the case that your T is lacking in empathy. It's more likely that there has been a communication breakdown by what you described. I'd be p.o'd at my T if he was always asking me "What does that mean?". I'd also make it a point to ask him directly why he didn't understand what I was saying. If they don't understand you, then they can't help you. That's why you have to communicate in a DIRECT fashion with your T, and make sure you are understood before moving on to next topic.

Your T IS taking care of you if he is confronting your dysfunctional belief and behavior systems. If that isn't the problem though, and your T REALLY doesn't understand you, TELL HIM! Make him "get it". Otherwise, your spinning your wheels and going nowhere. If your T is a POMPOUS ARSE like you said he seems to be when you are leaving his office---evaluate if that is because your mad at him for re-opening an old wound, or if it is because he was insensitive and/or rude.

Either way---turn the tables on HIM. Confront HIM with your emotions about his behavior toward you. You are a human being who is deserving of respect and being understood. If he can't do either of those things, then he needs to find a new profession and you need to find a new T who can.
BTW--it's fun to play with your T's head by turning the tables on them, which is what I often do when I feel like my is being too simplistic or not understanding. Live a little, you know~?!