((river))
thanks. You know, it's really good to reflect because clearly there is not one answer to this dilemma. I am in a crummy place.
But what I think is really going on is (1) we moved too fast in therapy (2) T went away right after a rupture and to my inner child it felt like a punishment and (3) His personal life experience does not include a miserable irish catholic childhood.
I hope you can find your way back. I am writing so much it is my source of solace.