Hi Bleah

How do you know when its beneficial? well you say you connect with your T at times - thats beneficial to you - it will help you through the pain - theya re good at providing strategies to help with the distorted thinking (and I have it to) that depression gives you.

When do you stop? I think when the pain stops, when you have let it out and found constructive ways to deal with it. or if you are gettng nowhere with your T then its time to find a new one.

You've been struggling with this for a long time and you're tired - i hear that! - but you were not getting better without T so give it a try a bit longer - it takes that dreaded T word Time - but it can help - and you and your children deserve to have a great life together - take care and please keep trying