It can be so extremely difficult...moving past what we fear we won't be able to move past. It can and does happen, though, even if it can be massively difficult.

I heard something a long time ago that really helped me in my marriage back then...

If we put one-tenth work, care and tenderness into nurturing the relationship we already have as it would take to establishing a good new relationship, we'd succeed.

I've found that true on my part, while realizing it takes two and that the other must be on board with the same. My hubby was on board and we made it work...married now 22 years the end of this month.

I think if I were you I'd have to know, and see results, that my partner was committed to restructuring and maintaining the current, as well as certain they won't do more harm in it, to move forward.

I wish you more than well.

KD