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Originally Posted by ncguynva
hey guys im back for awhile at least....been talking with the wife and shes says her T told her the reason she always wanted to go out with guys/friends and she protected them so much was bc they were her stress relief...they made her forget about her problems. Well it makes sense in a way....bc of my drunken calls/yelling at her before i left for iraq put her under alot of stress, she sought out a new friend to hang out with...her neighbor...
ive been given it thoght and sometimes i think maybe i should see what else the therapy turns up and the results...bc hoenstly, sometimes i ask myself "What if you come home to divorce her and she has made big improvements...and you can continue on with her?"
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it's good to hear from you again...
I agree with CSC about being cautious taking her word for what her T says...it's protecting yourself.
Any chance of couples counseling? Perhaps with a different counselor?
...an objective person can be of great help in clarifying so many things.
I salute you for wanting to give it every chance to work, but it's good to have a solid basis of trust...jmo.
My own experience is that it is very hard to give up hope that there's been some weird misunderstanding, and if I gave it enough time and effort that it would change things.
It didn't; I had to accept that it was gone. Something else had taken its' place...
Best wishes on whatever you decide...
please remember you have the right to be respected and shown courtesy
Cap
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