Hmmm seems to me that someone who cared about you would be glad that you're wanting help....then again I don't know. I've heard that a lot of people loose relationships with family during their using or when they get sober. Usually however, the families start to notice a change in the person and become grateful they got help.

Feel free to keep talking to us. I know I'm gonna run out of ideas though LOL. Maybe some others on the board have been in similar situations to yours. I just know that for me I was sick of living the way I was living and knew I was dying, so I didn't really care who I hurt in the process of getting sober. I didn't hurt anyone though....I had hid my drinking from the family, I know everyone says we can't hide it but I did. My family was schocked that I was alcoholic, but then they understood why I had been the way I had been. When I made amends to Grandma she said, "Oh, so was that why you weren't around when Grandpa died?" That broke my heart.....she had no idea at the time about my drinking, but she didn't understand why I was the way I was until I got sober. Today my whole family knows, and my aunt had come to me for help with her own drinking....too late though. She died a month later.

All I can share is my own experience since I'm not in your shoes.