Wow they sound like really great kids. And the one has had such a hard time....

I hope this doesn't sound too harsh, but I really hope you can get this under control before they have to cope with the death of their mom....people don't realize that this crap kills. I really hope that doesn't happen to you or your hubby, if not for you, for the kids. I don't know how to quit alone, so I don't think I'll be able to help in that regard. But I'll be here to talk as much I can.