I can only tell you from my point of view. My husband is the jealous & insecure one. He questions every move I make & assumes the worse about everything I do. If I am on the phone with him and he hears someone's voice in the background, he wants to know who it is and why they are there, etc.

I guess I can tell you that if you do that in your relationship, you will make your mate feel the mine has made me feel: I wonder if HE isn't the one doing something I should be worried about.

Does that make sense? Part of his actions make me want to get away from him & part of it makes me feel like he must be guilty of something if he is so worried about me.

So, maybe just try to realize that if he's pretty much been honest with you (the way I have been with my husband) that if he were doing something, he'd be man enough to tell you and break things off. That's what I tell my husband: I have no reason to lie to him. Why cheat on him if it would just be easier to leave and be with another person. And also, think about this: jealousy and insecurity makes the other person feel suffocated and not so much loved by you as feeling "owned" by you. That's not a good feeling.

So, I'm just trying to let you know how your mate might feel. I'm on the other side and know what it feels like.

Good luck