Looks to me like you have put together a few pieces of the puzzle. It really does make sense, and once we can recognize the pattern, we then can change it. And hopefully have better relationships in the future.

When the therapist first said these things, I totally rejected it. I didn't believe our childhood had anything to do with our adult life. And one day I noticed things my husband did that my parents did. It is almost funny, that my husband resembles my father's looks. Of course, not every aspect of our adult relationships can be referenced to childhood, but there can be a fine line of truth, or as the therapist would say, a thread that links, if we look.