that's a really hard problem. I agree with you in that I don't want a baby in the house either. I wouldn't be able to stand the noise, lack of sleep, and lack of personal time. Whether it's a deeper issue or not, I don't think my mind is going to be changed about it.

I know there are lots of happy parents with babies, I know several personally. I don't hate kids or think it's a bad thing to have a baby. I just don't want to do it myself.

IMHO i think two things are really important here. first, you should NOT give in just to compromise. Aside from being true to yourself (which is important!) a unwanted kid knows he's an unwanted kid. there's a huge popular opinion that as soon as you have your baby you will be a totally different person and be incredibly happy and it is NOT TRUE. lots of people regret becoming parents. we just don't hear about it so much. then the kids are not happy either.

second, you can't go on not talking about this with your husband. you've been fair. you let him know before you got married. i know it's uncomfortable and hard, nobody wants to start a fight. so this is where counseling might help. you can't live with this uncertainty.