Your post made a lot of sense. The good thing that you did was "not compromise" in the beginning. I think healthy relations are take and give. When there is a balance, of taking and giving, this can then be part of a foundation for healthy relationships. But when one is always doing the giving, or giving up, it should be a red flag that something here just isn't right........

Sounds like you found a great hubby ... You took the chance and it paid off.. Not all men are abusive.. This is sooo true. I don't hate men. I like them lots.. Be a sad world without them. I get along better with men on the friendship level...Maybe someday that will change...I can see it all now.. lol... Me and this old geezer, sitting on the rocken chair on the front porch, watching the birds making nests in the oak tree...sipping on ice tea.. lol

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