Hey Tony

First of all, everyone needs a day occasionally just for themselves even when they are in a serious relationship or married. That is normal and healthy. But, you can always casually ask her mom on the phone the next time she calls how their day out went.

But, this thing with her ex... if she says she absolutely has to talk to him face to face for closure. Then tell her she needs to do it now or at least within the next 5 days. She needs to do it and get it over! If she loves you she should want to deal with this immediately so she can move on with the future. Ask to go along... if you're having issues with it. The 3 of you can meet at a resturant, she might actually appreciate the support, if she says that you coming along is out of the question she might be hiding something. AND... I've never continued to email an ex to "see if he was fine" after we had broken up and I was seeing someone new. IF she had really wanted to leave the old relationship in good standing she would have done that at the time and not just told the guy over the phone.

Well, that's my two cents...

Best of luck, dude!!

~Christy