I'd have to say that I agree with Saifa&Christy?-your last 2 posters. The eye contact&smiling is a big one to break down barriers. Are there places you can meet up with people besides bars? Bars aren't the best place to find someone who's good for you. I know this from experience. Don't forget that there are plenty of us gals that are just as shy as you are. I found that I had to be the one to do the asking when it came to dates-maybe do a little work on assertiveness&finding out what is causing this social anxiety. You didn't say so, but I'm sure you have plenty of good attributes-work on putting those to the forefront when you meet a new girl. Remember it's OK to have girls as friends as well as being girlfriends. You can learn a lot from having girl friends. Don't lose faith-it will come to you when it's time&you are young-that's good. Take care-