I wouldn't like to be in your situation either because it makes you think about whether you're trying to be reasonable or are you being taken for a ride? I know that I, as a female, would love to have some time alone. I live w/my bf&he works from home&is a bit agoraphobic so he's ALWAYS HERE. As much as you may love someone-you do need time to yourself. I don't like the ex-boyfriend thing-I agree with Christyv-but, I don't know if I'd make an ultimatum-him or me. You could lose her&then you'd feel worse. Do what you can to boost your self-esteem without hurting others&you'll get through this. I do think she loves you&is in love with you-it's all an issue of trust&that can be VERY HARD! Good luck!