So I just lost my job over a sexual harrassment deal. I met with a former coworker who told me that many of the women in the office felt like I was hitting on them, and that at least one of them was going to report me to HR some time ago. I didn't know I was such a jerk.

I love women. I probably express myself too openly, especially in the workplace, but anything I ever said to anyone there was intended as a sign of admiration and respect. I never wanted a relationship with any of them, I just wanted them to know that they were appreciated.

So I recently started reading about sex/love addiction, and I think that's what I have. I was "flirting" with the women looking for some kind of validation. The source of my need for love is the fact that my mom worked her ***** off raising her 3 kids alone, and wasn't around much.

I chose women for all of my needs; doctors, dentists, instruction in whatever... I like the way I feel when I'm with them. I like the feeling that they might actually like me. I forgot all about the part where they get two faced and can't tell you what's really on their minds.

That's what happend to end my job. A woman that was in a close circle of friends in my office reacted to an e-mail I sent her. Now in our office, among that circle, continually exchange NSFW comments, jokes, whatever. I admit that the message I sent was a little over the top, but I expected her to tell me to go **** myself, not destroy my career.

Anyway, having been told that my "style" was not appreciated, I realize that I probably have an underlying motive for expressing myself the way I do, and that it comes across very differently than I intend it to.

The funny thing is, I'm getting NO sex! I honestly respect women and don't want to take advantage of them, and it's my effort to express that which gets me in trouble. I don't know...

I am going to seek some counseling, but being out of work makes the idea of $150 a session a little unrealistic. If anyone knows of any better way to get this resolved, please advise.

When I start my next job, I want to be free of this need for female validation.

sorry for the wordy post...