nah, she's too scared, she keeps saying i cant do this - cant cope and wants to cry but cant - the adult she is in control of herself - she can handle this - better she takes over - put everything back in the box for 6 weeks - sometimes i am so weak - but thats not true - I ams strong - I can do this - I cant change what will happen - so I have to .... i dont know ... just stay in control - i'll get there thanks