[quote=peaches100;913423]Sittingatwatersedge,
lack of nurturing vs. need for it, trust vs. betrayal of trust, comfort vs. abuse, etc. I know that for some people, they can do EMDR a few times and then bing*bang*boom, it seems to unlink and heal everything. but for some reason, the quick fix never works for me.

i have wondered why i feel such a huge need for physical comfort when i am triggered and seem to regress into my child state. Why don't coping skills or visualizations or logical explanations seem to fix me? The only thing i can come up with is that maybe my core issues took place when i was so young that the only way for them to be un-learned is to do it at the age level where the trauma happened. i know that sounds crazy, but it almost feels like a very, very old preverbal need. if i could actually *feel* physical comfort and learn it is safe, and over time i would learn to un-link it with fear or abuse, then it seems like i would finally heal. then again, maybe i am just crazy.

It doesnt seem that puzzling to me. We are wounded in relationship so we crave to heal in relationship.
Things with eye movements etc, doesnt approach that.