Chaotic
My parent's were the same way, they hated whinning. Yet, as your mom, my mom would cry as well, more so when my step-father was being his typical self.
I think our home revolved around them even though 6 children resided there.
Like you when my dad would whip my butt, as I got older I would stand there staunch, like big deal that didn't hurt.

I have to say your parents non-tolerance for whinning, or suck it up attitude could have certainly affected your need to express your emotions.

Hangingon