A childish person does not reach out to us here at PC like you so openly are reaching out to us. Neither does a 'selfish' person. Nor an 'irresponsible' one. You are none of these things Tao, not one. We see Tao for who she is really, we see your beauty. If your parents ask very emotionally 'what are you saying? what are you saying?' can _you be assertive _back and say Mom Dad what EXACTLY are you IMPLYING they way you ask _me that really now Mom and Dad what.