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Old Jan 09, 2009, 04:20 PM
ZeTeBu ZeTeBu is offline
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I have completely given up trying to figure out why some people make it their life long agenda to make others feel bad.

My motto for 2008 and now 2009 is "Everybody Will F With You!" I remind myself of this constantly. I don't care if it a kid or the checker at the grocery store. Some people can't stand to see others in a good mood.

I have a brother who only calls to annoy the heck out of me until I feel bad. Sometimes he does it to brag, other times because he's depressed or angry. It makes him feel better.

Regardless, my adopting this motto I has taken most of the sting out of insults. Now I just laugh it off and move on. Before I do that I let them know they have said something objectionable.

Perfect response is usually. "Excuse me...?" Usually they don't have the guts to say it twice. If they do I will rephrase what they said the way I heard it. Sometimes they don't mean what you heard. If it was an insult I let them know how I felt about it or laugh it off and move on. I think it shows them you have a thick skin and can't be brought down so easily.
Thanks for this!
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