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Hi Nicole

nicole
hey

Kayla Deceight
How are things going for you today?

nicole
I'm having a big issue right now,,,my bf left ot go to iran for a month to see his family...i renting a room at a philipino household and there is another boy living there as well

nicole
I have trouble forming friendships

nicole
and this other guy seemed friendly

nicole
and I thought he would jsut want to be friends

nicole
my bf warned me abbout him and I didn't listen...and hung out with him

Kayla Deceight
It seems like you are stressed out about this other guy

nicole
and now the guy who lives with me wants a relaitonship...i told him i had no feelings for him

nicole
yah

Kayla Deceight
So Im guessing this is a tough situation for you because your boyfriend isnt in the same place you are and you are looking to form new friendsships but this guy wants more than you do

nicole
I told my bf what happened..and i told my landlord

nicole
my bf got relaly upset

nicole
and was like...why didn't you listen to me

nicole
I was relaly depressed because it was druing the holidays

nicole
and I've never had a best friend

nicole
and I thought this guy would be my best friend

nicole
at least it felt like it

Kayla Deceight
I can imagine you must be pretty hurt because you were looking for a best friend not a new boyfriend

Kayla Deceight
and that it must be hard because your boyfriend doesnt understand the situation you're in

nicole
yah...says that he trust me...but he was asking why I would even care about this guys feelings

nicole
he didn't understand why I jsut didn't ignore him

nicole
because this guy kept feeling me up

nicole
and I told him to stop

nicole
because I have a bf

Kayla Deceight
It seems that your worried about the way your boyfriend is reacting and hes not really getting you

nicole
yah...the mexican had no family here for the holidays either

nicole
so I thought we were in the same boat

nicole
so i would keep him comapny

nicole
company*

Kayla Deceight
sounds like you were looking for someone to hang out with

Kayla Deceight
someone who could understand you and keep you company while your boyfriend was away

nicole
yah

Kayla Deceight
so im just wondering..what have you done in the past when you feel uncomfortable around someone

nicole
I've just dealt with it

nicole
I felt uncomfortabel around a teacher once

nicole
i felt I had no one to go to

nicole
and my parents didn't listen to me

Kayla Deceight
It seems as though you feel really lonley right now and dont have anyone to talk to that will listen to you

Kayla Deceight
you mentioned that in the past you have just dealt with the feelings of uncomfort...i was wondering if you could think of any ways you may be able to deal with it better

nicole
I just feel like I am bothering people if I do

nicole
or people jsut don't listen to me

nicole
I don't feel like i've ever had anyone relaly care about how I feel

Kayla Deceight
I can imagine you must bee isolated and alone since you feel no one listens to you

Kayla Deceight
feel*

nicole
yah

nicole
I told this guy i don't know how many times that I just wanted to be friends

Kayla Deceight
Sounds like you are gettin frustrated with this guy because he isnt listening to you about what you want

nicole
yah...I've had that happen with another guys as well

nicole
I have troubles forming relationships with girls

nicole
and I just feel like I've been forgotten

Kayla Deceight
Seems like there is alot going on for you right now...I was just wondering what the biggest issue today was?

nicole
I don't really know...I have a bunch of issues I guess...I've always been told I was normal

nicole
and no one has ever cared about the pain i feel

Kayla Deceight
It sounds as if you feel that people are not caring about you as much as you would like them to

nicole
yah

Kayla Deceight
How do you get by everyday with these feelings? Is there anything you do to make yourself feel better?

nicole
i was feeling better when i was talking with the mexican and doing things

nicole
i thought he was my bfriend

Kayla Deceight
Im getting the feeling you are really looking for someone to be your best friend and be there for you, and I can imagine its really disappointing and frustrating when you are getting these responces from people

this is just a convo with an online counsellor...this might help to make my situation a lot clearer