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Jan 09, 2009, 10:17 PM
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Member Since: Jul 2008
Location: east of the sun, west of the moon
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 kendyll and jon
i am so happy for both of you, you have done so much to make things good together. i wish you all the very best together!
you ask about acknowledging his "others" in the ceremony. my only real thought is, could you write something of a personal statement or something in your vows to acknowldge the unique nature of your relationship and how you all have grown together and become closer in the fullness of your multi-faceted relationship.
also, you may want to think how you would work this out with the person officiating your ceremony. this person might need some time and discussion to be able to handle your ceremony with grace and understanding, so he doesn't act all stiff and awkward due to lack of insight into did. just a few thoughts, guys and i am so happy for you.
we all have our own stories but i am very wistful and wish my so could be like you. he and i have been together for 28 years and we were 14 yrs. in before i was dx with mpd/did and he has never been able to accept its validity or reality. it hurts me more than i can say.
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