Hi everyone. I've posted my troubles in Women's but thought a male perspective might help too. Femailes too though LOL. Anyone....

My situation...my boyfriend and I have been together almost 2 years. In the beginning it started off hot and heavy and awesome. I enjoyed sex for the first time. About 6 months in it started tapering off. Normal, I know. Except it just continued to dwindle. It became a couple times a month. Last new years he had his first "performance issue". It happens, I thought nothing of it. We tried again a week later with the same result. Then on April 5 last year it was our anniversary. We tried again and he was a little more successful but still had a problem. We talked about it and he said he had the same problem in every relationship and it never got better. He said on our anniversary that was most improvement he'd ever had. We haven't done it since......

On April 24 I went blind. At first the no sex thing was really hard because I really thought it was me. We had a couple talks about it after I got into therapy. He assured me its not me. He said he's in a mid life crisi. He just turned 41. I just turned 30. I went blind and then his mom was diagnosed with cancer. He works full time and is in grad school. He said sex is the last thing on his priority list.

Am I being selfish? My therapist doesn't think so. She's concerned for us and his health. I'm concerned about his health too, prostate issues and such. He needs to be tested for the cancer gene, as its hereditary.

I've been patient...I used to be the same way in relationships, I would no longer want sex. I'm feeling guilty for that now as I see what it does.....

My T said I need to have another talk with him about and I plan to probably tonight. I'm starting to go a little nutty. I know women hit their primes in their thirties. I'm starting to have dreams about him, and fantasies about tother men....I'm not a cheater but I'm starting to understand why people cheat.....

Help? Guys, any thoughts? I'm going to approach it gently with him, in a non confrontational way. He said this is part of his anxiety diorder,t that since he's had problems with erections, he gets anxious about it. I just don't know what to do. For the most part I know its not me, I know he loves me. But at night on the weekends, I get depressed.....

Thanks in advance......

Rayna