Awwwww (((((((((( Rayna & BF ))))))))))))

I'm so sorry you are both going through this. It must be so hard on the both of you!

There are a couple of things that pop out at me when reading your post. First, it sounds like he is under a LOT of pressure. I can completely understand the anxiety level he is having and how it could affect his performance. Not to mention the level of anxiety that comes from lack of performance....like a vicious circle finding no way off of it

You are right, he needs to have a physical and talk to a doctor about what's going on, not only about the gene testing but about his performance issues. I believe he will find he is not alone in that arena and hopefully it will help to know that. There are many things that the doc could suggest to him both medically and psychologically to help him. I can only imagine how embarrassed he must be feeling too.

Another thing that pops out to me is that possibly each one of you has different goals which puts sex higher on one list than the other. There are also things you can do for yourself that might help take the edge off as well (if you get my drift LOL)

The both of you have been through so very much in the past year. Since some of the issues with his performance started before your blindness did, I would say that it isn't you he's having the problems with.

Does he feel more pressured by you when you sit down and talk about the issue? If so, spinning it with the medical issue side of things and your concern for his health, both physically and mentally may help take some of that pressure off. Maybe you can plan a really romantic evening at home....make it a date night.....play some lover's games. There are so many things you can do in that realm that may help pique his interest

I do hope that for the both of you things can be turned around. I'm sure it's quite frustrating and concerning for you both.


sabby