Ok I am not sure how to respond to this. I want to respect your feelings of anger. When someone you trust hurts you that deeply its hard not to want to lash out and get revenge. Revenge is like dropping a boulder into a pond. It splashes up and soaks every one around not just the one you want to. In a way it disturbes the balence of things. There are unintended and maybe unseen consequences of revenge. If she has kids then they will be effected..ect
However it sounds like her husband raped you? If this is the case he deserves revenge in the form of jail. I am so sorry that that happened to you that is not ok. You have many options and I would like to tell you all your options. I want to say that its your choice to go any further with this if it was rape but i wanted to tell you i hear what you kinda slipped in there covered in the blanket of anger towards your friend. Sweetheart you are in my thoughts today. Let me know if you want to talk or need a number to talk about what happened to you. Do u know how to PM? Click on my user name and there should be an option. You are heard and i am here ok?