Myo, my mom is Narcissistic so everything was about her and no one else, so, therefore, I was basically emotionally neglected. I worked through all the effects of this - low self worth, and all the things that I never got taught, social skills, personal boundaries, meeting my needs, empowerment, dealing with my feelings, etc.
Because I was basically betrayed by my mother because she didn't mother me very well, I learned that women couldn't be trusted. I have spent my whole life not allowing woman to get close. I have only been working on this the last few years. Over the last year I have noticed in the moment when with woman acquaintences how I push them away so I am working on this now. When I notice that I am doing it, I feel low self-worth surfacing. I tell myself right then and there "this woman isn't your mother, this woman is not looking at you like you are worthless". (When your mom neglects you the message is that you must be worthless then). I am making good progress with this..........
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........
I'm an ISFJ
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