Hi babe, man oh man, and so it goes on doesn't it? I do not have any siblings, I am an only child...... don't know if that makes it worse or better. I was my parents prodigy as a child and had education "beaten" into me on occassion. I am over that part now and I guess if things get really unbearable, I have asked my mother to leave my life once before and I can do it again.

But I am all for peace and I want my mother to be around so I take the good with the not so good and stand up for myself when I feel I need to. She is really trying and I know how much growing she has had to do to be more like the mother "I never had". Also, we don't know each other very well and there are issues of trust and abandonment from both sides. So there has to be give and take with out sacrificing ourselves.

I really believe that one of us would be dead if we had not had that time apart. I am really glad I took the stand back then and found the insurmountable strength to let her go. It was the only way we could both survive.

I hope you find the way through your own parental maze and come out the other end better off for it. Good luck