thanks for your reply, leslie, i only just saw it.

in a weird way... i guess my childhood experiences "shielded" me a bit from the brunt of it. i guess i've always expected that this is how men behave... so when it happened, i wasnt surprised or saddened. more just resigned. it did not lead to me feeling more unsafe in the world, i already live with that feeling.

i didnt press charges at the time, and i won't now. i hope he has the self-knowledge to be able to work through his own issues and maybe own up to the act himself, with someone who will help him work through to something that is right. i know he went to a weekly DBT group which he found helpful, so maybe it is something he processed there.

i guess i feel a bit guilty for not reporting it.