Hi,
I am sorry to hear what you are going through. I don't think it's fair in this country that doctors get to dictate based on their conscience what they think you will want in 10 years. It's very paternalistic and you should take your case before the hospital administration - insist on having it reviewed by an ethics committee.

My husband and I wanted to get him a vasectomy b/c we don't want kids and all of the hormone contraceptives give me terrible migraines. I was told that no one would do it, but I found some one who would. We haven't done it yet though.

As for the hormones, I found a more local approach that didn't cause migraines. I use the Nuvaring continuously. I had cysts on my ovaries, too, that would rupture and it was awful. Likely, I have endometriosis, but the Nuvaring has settled everything down.

I hope you get it figured out. I would try an academic medical center. There is likely to be doctors there with the most up to date knowledge.

Best of Luck, and make sure you're not anemic!!!