a couple posts here have sounded a little like they blame juliebean, why didn't she just leave, etc. if she feels victimized, chances are good that she has a reason to, so we should give her the benefit of the doubt. people who were raped in the most usual, violent sense often feel guilty and often blame themselves for not doing thus and so.

I myself probably wouldn't use the word "rape", though some people would, but in any case there certainly was some force and manipulation here. I agree with people who have told you to stay away from this guy, tell him not to contact you, and don't contact him. Uninvite him from the party. You don't need to tell anyone why unless you want to, and if they nag you about it, tell them to stop.

He behaved very, very badly. Maybe (and maybe not) there were things you might have done differently, I would not presume to judge from what you've told us. But he was absolutely a scumbag. The friendship should be over. Apologizing should not fix it.

You are probably doing some other girl a favor by sending this guy a clear message.

I don't take a hard line on very many things, but I'm taking it on this one.