Wow, I am so sorry that you view men in this way. My husband has his faults to be sure, but never once in 23 years of marriage have I ever been concerned about him being unfaithful. Not a for a single second. He's an attractive man, I'm sure that there have been offers; but he made a commitment to me and it means something to him.

My own parents were married nearly 40 years when my father died and he was faithful to her the entire time too. Uncles, cousins, the list goes on. It sounds to me like you are attracted to the wrong kind of men, as mates and friends.

One female cousin is constantly surprised that her choice in partners cheats on her, but she goes for the same type of man over and over again. When one of those true and faithful men showed her attention he was "too nice" and "there was no chemistry".

I've known cheaters of course, both men and women. But there's usually a very well known pattern. You cannot stand in the middle of a corn field and be surprised to find corn. Very few times in life does this behavior come out of left field without warning.

It is my firm belief that if you enjoy spending time with your partner, you have similiar beliefs, mutual respect, communication skills and a good foundation; your relationship can last forever. YOU set the standard for your relationship. YOU let him know what you will and will not put up with. If you expect garbage and tolerate garbage, you're going to get garbage.