Ok, I finished reading the thread and have a couple more things to say. Stating that Juliebean should have removed herself from a situation she did not want to be in is NOT BLAMING THE VICTIM. It's called "don't be a victim."

We as women need to get our act together! It's OK to say NO!!! You can be rude, you can insult him whatever, it is YOUR RIGHT!

I have been raped, I have been molested. Because of this I taught my children, particularly my daughter, certain things.

1) Never be alone with this man EVER he is not to be trusted.
2) NO means NO. It is not a game. Say it, mean it. If you ever feel uncomfortable somethings wrong, sex is a beautiful thing and it should not make you feel uneasy.
3) NEVER EVER drink around people you do not know or do not trust COMPLETELY. This does not mean that a drunk girl that has been raped has brought it on herself! But to put yourself in a position that dangerous is careless and can be avoided.
4) Who you sleep with is YOUR choice, do not ever think that it's easier to do it rather than refuse, you are more important than that.

And that's what it's all about minimizing our risks! Some things are beyond our control, but it is just plain irresponsible not to minimize them when you can! In a perfect world this would not be necessary.