I agree that the direct approach is the best. I've been on a variety of antidepressants and not only can they bring your sex drive to zero, Effexor and another I cannot remember made me viturally numb from the waist down. Hubby worked so hard to get me in the mood (and that did work, massage, cuddling etc) but no matter what we did before, during or after, I wasn't finishing. This was making me frustrated and angry.

She may not be aware that it's the meds, I wasn't.