I can relate. My dad was never really around when I was growing up and when he was, hell broke loose. I was raised around mostly women, including my 3 older sisters. I was in a controlling relationship that I ended and now I've been single for nearly 4 years. Just the thought of going ANY pain, I just can't phathom - both on a romantic level as well as in a friendship level. Honestly, I can't even say I know much about men. They intimidate me. I can barely look at one in the eye without acting nervous or behaving inappropriately (like they 'want' me). It's weird.

I don't have a solution to your problem but therapy definately is a great way to start. The fact that you're aware as to WHY this is happening is only half the battle.